Here's the weird thing about me and dating. I meet new people ALL the time in real life. In no one's estimation would I be considered a couch potato or shy. I can usually get folks laughing, or at the very least smiling, within about 2.1 seconds of meeting. Lest you think I am a complete egomaniac, I'm basing that statement on plenty of comments made by friends and strangers over the years...and you know...the facts. So I may have resisted online dating initially; equating it to that area at high school formals where everyone who doesn’t get asked to dance congregates. In the interest of full disclosure: I've only ever been to one formal but I've seen enough John Hughes films to get the general idea.
Yet, here I am on two popular dating sites...again. The difference this time around being that I am going to pursue the HELL out of other unsuspecting internet daters and say "yes" more than I am accustomed to. A few of my deal breakers in the past:
- Complete disregard for the English language including but not limited to horrendous grammar, spelling and using text speak in messages.
- Shirtless pics.
- Listing "Atlas Shrugged" as one of your favorite books and you are no longer in your twenties. Sorry, that's still a deal breaker. Non-negotiable I'm afraid.
Actually, I don’t have nearly as many deal breakers as I suspected. I have made a few important decisions to further narrow down the prospects and focus damn it!
Important Decision #1
I will start messaging 2 - 3 people a week. This is perhaps the scariest decision. I am setting myself up for a lot of virtual rejection. But I think I can take it…um...right?
Important Decision #2
I am only going to contact/respond to folks who have at least a 90% match rating. Dating takes time and I do actually have a life; a life full of friends and much merry making. I need to have some way of keeping this project manageable and my other good times going.
Important Decision #3
While this lovelorn girl is seeking to swoon all over the place, I can definitely handle casual sex with no strings attached. Not sure if I am going to be assertive about seeking this out, but please know that it is most certainly on the menu...and there may be future posts about those encounters.
Important Decision #4
If someone indicates in their profile that they are seeking any one of the following: healthy, athletic, slim or any iteration thereof, I'm going to pass. While I know I'm a cute, physically active and fabulous girl, I definitely do not have an athletic build nor would I be considered slim. I am a relatively healthy eater but feel like often times this is code for skinny in online profiles.
Important Decision #3
While this lovelorn girl is seeking to swoon all over the place, I can definitely handle casual sex with no strings attached. Not sure if I am going to be assertive about seeking this out, but please know that it is most certainly on the menu...and there may be future posts about those encounters.
Important Decision #4
If someone indicates in their profile that they are seeking any one of the following: healthy, athletic, slim or any iteration thereof, I'm going to pass. While I know I'm a cute, physically active and fabulous girl, I definitely do not have an athletic build nor would I be considered slim. I am a relatively healthy eater but feel like often times this is code for skinny in online profiles.
Now that we've got the important decisions out of the way...DAMN this little experiment is turning out to be much easier talked about than implemented. I’m okay with ignoring my gut reaction to someone’s physical appearance. Things get a little tricky when I read profiles and my instincts tell me, this will never work. Pesky (typically reliable) instincts. However, the boys and girls are not beating down my virtual door so I need to figure my shit out and get to some actual dates! On that note...I'm heading over to the dating sites to start messaging my little heart away!
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